Orgasm Control by Diane Callaway
I want to welcome Diane as a guest! She is an experienced Domme who loves to be in control!
Orgasm Control
I have been playing since I was first on my own. I can remember when I first started dominating men I had all home made products. I still have some of these hiding in a box somewhere. As the years have gone by I have expanded my collection of cock toys into a decent selection of fun things for orgasm control.
I am into sensual play. I am not sadistic but I like to put a man on the edge and hold him there for as long as I can. When I started out I used rope to tie up a man’s testicles and shaft. I was first introduced into cock cages by the simple leather strap that went around the base of the shaft.
About a year later I then discovered the three strap leather cage for a long time this was my personal favorite. The nice thing about these is they increase a man’s girth and his ability to maintain an erection for a long time. I enjoy a longer evening of play staying power is important for this.
Generally once a man obtains his orgasm he is done for that night with this type of play. I had been watching the hard plastic cages for a few years when I finally bought one they were not what I wanted them to be.
The issues I had with the hard plastic cock cages were the edges are extremely sharp even in the cb6000 if a man has larger testicles the base ring is too small in diameter. It is fun to use pain to heighten the evening but having someone completely uncomfortable for a whole night is not enjoyable for anyone.
I started talking to my callers on Niteflirt asking a lot of questions from the men who enjoy chastity and orgasm control. It became apparent there are a lot of people who were having the same issues with the hard plastic cages that I was experiencing. I was adviced to try a metal cage for my submissive men. I found a few that I liked and just bought four one night they were all designed a little different and I wanted a variety of ones to play with.
The metal cages can be harder to get on initially but once they are in place my playmates quickly told me they were far more comfortable than the hard plastic cages. I like that they are more intimidating when a man is wearing them. A plastic cage looks flimsy when it is on because of this a man may feel that he is not mentally caged. The metal ones completely do away with that mental train of thought.
A man feels he is absolutely caged up and until I undo that lock he is there.I am often asked by a man who is just starting out in this how long do I lock someone up and the answer to that is it depends. Cock caging is extremely intimate and requires a large amount of trust between both people involved. I generally start out with an evening of play trying on different cages to discover the best fit. I like to use a lot of teasing for the night.
After I find the cage that I feel will work best I then will do a whole weekend the best scenario is to go out-of-town and use this as a weekend away. For a man to feel he is being controlled he needs a lot of attention. Placing a man in a cage and ignoring him will not make him feel he is being submissive.
Most women just want to put a man into some type of device and walk away. The tease is what makes this so much fun and it is the important part of the process. In a lot of ways it takes a person back to the tease of an early relationship where every touch creates electricity in the skin and butterflies in the belly.
For me it is all about the fun of it. I enjoy taunting a man over and over to where he will absolutely do anything to just feel the explosion of an orgasm. The cages increase these wants and desires but the important part is and will always be the emotional connection.
Diane Callaway
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